I recently had a conversation with a woman that found herself in a situation that she never expected to be in. She felt trapped in a never-ending cycle that was created one small decision at a time. She felt hopeless and at a loss to find a way out.

Have you ever found yourself in a similar predicament? Like a careening roller-coaster ride it seems insane to think about jumping off, if you are able to even think at all!

You look back and question how you got there, this was never the plan.

That’s what most of us think.

My first question is usually,

“What did you dream of doing or becoming when you were younger?”

Going back to that point is usually a good place to get back on track.

Who sets a goal to be broke, lonely and overweight by 30?

Yet, this and so many other results are the compilation of one small choice after another that WERE NOT on the path to fulfilling our dreams.

For example, I may (or may not) have gained a few unwanted pounds over the last few weeks. And, I may (or may not) have indulged in a few fresh, hot doughnuts and desserts over that same time period. Identifying why we are so tempted to say yes to a red light that is on instead of a healthy lifestyle is the secret to changing course.

First of all, we must identify the dream! The more specific the better.

Secondly, we should map out steps to get there. (Remember that all destinations are the result of several small choices.)

Most importantly, find someone to share your dreams and goals with.

Preferably someone that will cheer you on, or better yet, join you on the journey.

I saw a plant once that was supposed to be in full bloom but wasn’t. When I asked about it, I was told that this particular plant had to cross pollinate with a similar plant in order to bloom. That was huge!

I see that everyday – people that are existing, but not thriving, because there is no one to encourage them to bloom!

Jim Rohn’s observation that you are the average of the five people that you surround yourself with could be the catalyst from your mere survival to catapulting you into your destiny!

Who are you surrounding yourself with? What choices are you making?

You were born to bloom not merely exist~

Let me know how I can help you find the path fom your dream to your destiny.